When we lose something that is very special to us, we grieve. We can grieve over the loss of a pet that has been a close friend for many years. We can grieve over the loss of our health, or our job. Most often we grieve when somebody who is very precious to us has died.
Grief is a normal human emotion. There is no ‘right’ way to grieve, but grieving should not be stopped or hindered. We need to grieve as we adjust to life without the person we love. This takes time and we go through many emotions, but grief must be allowed to run its course.
Often grief is thought of as just crying and being sad. But grieving can also include intense anger, high levels of anxiety, a sense of relief, guilt, numbness or panic. We might question ourselves, asking if we could have done anything differently. We get angry at hospitals and health professionals, and even the person we’ve lost. We can’t face people, yet want company. We feel alone and isolated. We feel guilty for feeling the way we do.
All of this is very natural and normal.
However, because we, as a society, are very reluctant to talk about death and loss, grief takes us by surprise when we experience a significant loss. Family and friends don’t always know what to say, and when they offer advice it is often unhelpful. “You’ll get over it with time,” is said often. But we don’t simply ‘get over’ a loss of this magnitude. The intensity of the feelings may fade, but they never disappear. Instead, we learn to live with, and relate to, our grief in a way that allows us to live life and be fully functional.
At MGA we will help you talk about and come to terms with your grief while honouring the memory of the person you have lost.